How ADHD Affects Social Skills and What to Do about it

By Karen DeBolt | 7th Mar 2013 | Filed under Parenting, Social Skills, Techniques

I hope everything is going well for you and your family! This article was created for a

talk that I’m giving at the CHADD Parent Support Group next Thursday, so I thought that
I would share it with you as well. This talk is open to anyone, so if you are local and
would like to attend all the details are on their website:

It will be held at 6:30 pm at Beaverton Christ Community Church, 4325 SW 107th Ave.
Beaverton, OR. 97005. Feel free to call me for directions at 503-459-2073.


How ADHD Affects Social Skills and What to Do about it

Social skills are those human interacting abilities that just come naturally for most
people. Neurotypical folks don’t need to learn to notice body language or how to start a
conversation. The learning just happens without a lot of outside intervention beyond
societal norms – i.e. good manners.

However, for those who have been diagnosed with ADHD, the learning may be a
challenge due to the very way that they are wired. Being easily distracted,
over-stimulated, under stimulated, or just having a hard time focusing can affect social
learning as well as being able to use the skills that are already there. Here are some

* Andrew blurts out answers and speaks to the teacher in the same way that he
might talk to a buddy which comes across as very disrespectful.

* Jim is a hero on the playground for his amazing arm fart skills, but gets in big
trouble for doing it at his very formal great grandmother’s home.

* Amy’s friend Sarah asks her how she likes her new dress. Amy honestly tells
Sarah and she doesn’t like it. Sarah stops talking to Amy and worst other girls stop
talking to Amy also, but she has no idea what the problem is.

* Janes talks non-stop about whatever is in her head at the moment and does not
notice that her friend’s and her family are bored or would like to respond even.

* Bruce loves to play with other kids but he has to direct all the play, win every
game, and will throw a huge fit if things don’t go his way. Other kids start to avoid him.

* Andrew is thoughtful and kind with younger kids and when he is one on one, but
either shuts down or gets super silly in larger groups.

* Robin gests very angry when someone bumps into them accidentally and will
assume that the other person did it “on purpose.”

* Bonnie stands too close to people and doesn’t recognize their discomfort when
they step back.

Sound familiar?

These children are all exhibiting social skills challenges that are fairly common for kids
with ADHD. The hard part often is helping kids to recognize how their behavior affects
all of their relationships. So how can parents help?

Three tips for helping kids with ADHD to improve social skills:

Tip #1: Discuss Expected versus Unexpected Behaviors

Explore the difference between expected and unexpected behaviors. Talk to your child
about the types of behavior that are expected versus those that are unexpected as
they happen.

Not all unexpected behavior causes trouble, but it might just cause others to think
“weird thoughts” about you. Putting underwear on your head and walking around is not
necessarily going to get you in trouble but it will get you a reputation as being a bit odd
or weird. Talking too much and not listening is unexpected but not necessarily bad

Talking about these things with your child using examples can be helpful to begin the
conversation about how their behavior affects other people.

Tip #2 Increasing awareness through watching others

When watching TV shows or movies at home stop the action and talk about what is
happening in moment. Ask your child questions to help build awareness of social

- How is that character feeling right now? (builds feeling words vocabulary)
- How does this character’s behavior affect that character? (awareness of expected
vs unexpected behaviors and also how behaviors affect others)
- How would you do in that situation? (Opens up problem solving social situations)

These kinds of conversations can help children to be able to talk about social situations
in a non-threatening way that is not personal to them which is a first step towards better
social awareness.

Tip #3 Rubber Chicken Moments – Using humor

Using a humorous method to point out unexpected behaviors can help your child to
begin to build awareness. During our afterschool program and Day camps we call these
moments Rubber Chicken moments. By giving someone who has made a social mistake
the rubber chicken you can use humor to point out that everyone makes social errors on
occasion. Having a leader give himself or herself the rubber chicken helps kids to see
that everyone messes up sometimes – even me!

For even more ideas and more in-depth conversation about improving your child’s
social skills come to the Stumptown CHADD Parent support Group and see Karen’s
presentation called “Five Ways Kids with ADHD Can Build Better Social Skills.”

Whiz Kid After School Program to be announced soon!

This is program designed to teach kids
the basics of social skills so that they can learn
relationship skills to make and keep friends, control
impulses that get them in trouble, be able to see how their
behavior affects others in their lives, and have a great
time doing it.

We will be meeting in our Beaverton Location with
a great program with new activities, outdoor games,
and lessons to last a life time on how to get along better with
peers, parents, and everyone else! If this sounds like something
you are interested in for your child. Please call Karen at 503-459-2073

All the details will be announced soon!

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An Apology

By Karen DeBolt | 14th Jun 2012 | Filed under Reflections

This has been a crazy year for our family. My husband and I were sick most of the month of May – not just sniffles that you can continue to do stuff around, but flat out, antibiotics, “How many sick days do I have anyway?” kind of sick. Not fun and even worse, I got waaaaay behind on everything. I still have over 500 unread emails in my inbox! Ugh! So if you did not get a call from me recently when you expected it. Please accept my apologies.

I’m working on getting caught up!  A big part of getting caught up is trying to make sure that the families who would like to attend camp are able to get in. If you are still interested in having your child attend one of our camps, please call me at 503-459-2073 and we can schedule a time to get the registration started. For all the details about our Summer Day Camp Programs please visit the website at:

We have two great weeks planned: July 16 – 20 and Aug 6-10. Check it out and see if your child would benefit.


All the best, Karen


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What Social Skills are NOT

By Karen DeBolt | 14th Mar 2012 | Filed under Parenting, Reflections, Social Skills, Techniques

Message from Karen

Well, it has been a number of months since I have been in contact with you all. We have been making some major changes that will allow us to serve more children and their families. This means that we are in the process of moving out of my upstairs and into a new space in the community building of Christ Community Church. We are very fortunate that the Church is allowing us to use their facilities. Our programs have not changed a lot in terms of what and how we are teaching, but we are hopeful that this location will be more central to more families. We are now located in North East Beaverton just off the 217 freeway. 4325 SW107th Avenue, Beaverton, OR 97005

Starting April 5th, we are holding our after school program, Whiz Kids Club, again on Thursdays. We will be running three groups: one for younger boys, one for older boys, and a girls group. All the details are on the website at:

Resource Fair Coming up!

We will be heading over to the Swindell’s Complementary Therapies and Recreation resource fair on March 23rd from 11 am to 4 pm. At 830 NE 47th Ave., Portland, OR. 503-215-2429 Karen will be giving a 20 minute talk about social skills and our day camp program, and we will be manning a booth as well, so come support us and bring the kids as there will be fun things for them to do as well!

What social skills are NOT

I spend a lot of time thinking about, teaching about, writing about social skills. It is very clear to me what it means, but I’m not sure that the big picture concept is completely understood. This article will hopefully clarify what I mean when I talk about social skills.

Social skills is not about manners, which fork to use on the salad, or whether to write a thank you note after a play date although that type of knowledge is a tiny piece. The larger part is about reading non-verbal communication, being able to understand another person’s point of view, and participating in the give and take of a good conversation. Manners are important, but they are not the whole picture.

Social skills is not only about making friends. I have parents all the time tell me that their child has no trouble at all making friends, but when I see their child with friends, I find that they are bossy, they have trouble sharing, they play next to others not with them, and some don’t actually know their friends names or interests. They may not be able to carry on the give and take of a conversation, but will “talk their friends ear off.” This means that while they may claim “friends” in the end they may not really even know what that means or worst they start off a friendship then end up fighting with the friend so much that they lose the friendship which is very painful.

Social skills are not about “being respectful” although this is a concept that must often be taught to our children specifically. Many times our kids do not seem to be able to understand that how they treat an adult is different than how they would treat a child their own age or even a younger child. They appear to believe that all people are equal and to be treated the same which does not work well at all. Teachers, Principals, and even parents often have a very different idea about how children should treat them and see any deviation from that norm as “Disrespectful.” The bottom line is that how one treats one type of person is different than how one treats another and by breaking that hidden social rule, your child will get into trouble.

I hope that this clarifies a bit what it is I’m talking about when I say Social Skills. There is a lot more, and I will be continuing to clarify and give examples and ideas as time goes by.

Of course, I believe that our programs are the amazing for children to begin to learn these skills while having fun, so that they can be more successful in school, at home, and in life! Visit to see if our programs would be a good fit for your family.

Self Care: Taking time to read for fun

In my never ending quest to nag, cajole, and convince you to take care of yourself so that you can take better care of your child, I have gotten bored with the usual suspects – good sleep, healthy food and exercise. Todays topic was suggested to me by a recently divorced mom of two who called reading “fun books” comfort food for the soul. I couldn’t agree more.

Of course, much like comfort food, one person’s fun is going to be different than another person. I remember during my divorce time, I would need to just escape into silliness for a while to take a break from all the seriously scary stuff that was going on in my life, so I read Douglas Adams’ “Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” books – all of them in one giant tome. I laughed and laughed until the tears ran down my cheeks.

I also enjoy reading young adult fiction for fun like the Harry Potter Books, Percy Jackson books, or books by John Green. The added bonus is that I can talk to my kids about them and use them as examples for topics I’m trying to explain to them. Also, they just make me laugh. The latest Percy Jackson goes to which is being run by actual amazons with armored and sharpened forklifts! I cracked up at that one!

I also enjoy a nice pulpy mystery novel like by J.D. Robb’s (Nora Roberts) In Death series or James Patterson’s Women’s Murder Club books or Alexander McCalls #1 Ladies Detective Agency stories. Fun with a bit of mystery, sexy characters, and adventure thrown in just takes me out of my everyday existence.

So what is fun for you to read? Let us know in the comments on the Blog.

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Using Humor to Improve Social Skills

By Karen DeBolt | 26th Sep 2011 | Filed under Parenting, Social Skills, Techniques

Rubber chicken

"Uh Oh! Having a Rubber Chicken Moment?"

My son is making weird noises as he is doing his homework—AGAIN. I don’t know about you, but those weird noises kind of make me crazy some days, and especially if I’m doing something I need to concentrate on like paying bills or writing this newsletter. I could yell at him for getting on my last nerve yet again, but yelling doesn’t actually seem to get through to him. By the time I’m done yelling, he can’t even remember what I was yelling about in the first place. Not to mention, he would be too upset to finish his homework!

So what to do?

Use a Rubber Chicken!

During our Whiz Kid Afterschool programs and summer camps, we will use humor to point out those annoying social faux pas rather than getting a kid in trouble. Our kids are in trouble enough as it is—learning is the goal. So we will hand a kid who is rolling on the floor during the lesson a rubber chicken. No really, it’s a rubber chicken! It sounds goofy and truly it is. The rubber chicken is something that the kids know symbolizes making a social mistake and that we all make them. Sometimes a kid will stop and ask for the chicken before me or my staff even say a word! It really works well.

There are so many great ways to use humor to help our kids to learn better behavior. What are some ways that you use humor? Let me know down there in the comments!

Whiz Kids After School Program is Enrolling now

If you have a child who could benefit from social skills training who is between 6-12 years old, check out our website. We are offering groups for boys and girls this year. Its starting October 18th for boys and October 19th for girls. Check it out on the Social Whiz kids website!

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Defying Defiance

By Karen DeBolt | 14th Jun 2011 | Filed under Parenting, Reflections, Relationships, School help, Social Skills, Techniques

With the end of the school year drawing to a close, I have been getting lots of parents contacting me regarding their child’s defiance at school. Sometimes this is an ongoing problem, but often it seems to be escalating now or coming up for the first time. This doesn’t really surprise me. Defiance in children is often misunderstood as being about “willful disobedience” or about “trying to drive authority figures crazy” when that is very often not even close to what is going on in the child’s mind.

Allie (not a real child) is a bright and talented 9 year old who is often found starring out the window in the classroom and spinning in fast circles on the playground. Allie often struggles with back talking at home, but does usually doesn’t make a lot of waves at school. This week Allie began to refuse to do things that her teacher or playground attendants requested. She refused to come in from recess with the other children and had to be escorted back to the classroom, then she refused to work on the year end review worksheets that the teacher asked her to do.

What’s going on? 

Allie’s mom and dad were confused about why all the sudden Allie was having trouble at school and they worried that this would carry over to the new school year as well. In the moment, Allie would only answer an informative “I don’t know” with a frown and a shrug when asked about her behavior. Her teachers and parents were very concerned.

Putting on your detective hat 

Defiance can be somewhat complex to untangle at times because the causes are rarely what the adults in the child’s life might think. I find that the most helpful way to think about it is that the child is doing the best that she can in the moment, but is feeling too overwhelmed to do what is asked. This overwhelm can be caused by a myriad of things. Here are some ideas of things your child might say or do to give you some clues.

Anxiety/Perfectionism: “I don’t know how!” “I can’t do it right.” “Its too hard.” “You do it.” “I can’t do it without <the certain color crayon or other supply>”

Sensory Overload: “Its <too loud>, <smells bad>, <that this tag hurts>” Child may hold ears or nose or other sensing organ for protection. Child may bang head, bang into walls(sensory seeking), may shut down, flap hands, or stiffen fingers (sensory defensive)

Emotional: “She did it on purpose!” Uncontrolled emotional outbursts of crying or yelling over things that seem small to others. Holding onto grudges.

Social Skills: May not recognize authority of teachers, parents, etc. Might be upset over a perceived slight or even a righteous bullying experience. Only sees her own point of view and cannot understand another person’s point of view.

Executive functioning: May be overwhelmed with other responsibilities or perceived responsibilities and unable to properly prioritize.

These will hopefully give you some places to start in exploring with your child her reasons for not doing what she has been told to do. As your child becomes more self aware and better able to communicate her needs she will be able to express her reasons for refusing so that problem solving will become easier for both of you. The key is to ask with empathy so that she more likely to communicate with you and then you can begin problem solving.

Now what? 

Once Allie’s parents were able to have calm information gathering session with Allie they found out a few things that they did not know before. Allie had problems with some girls on the playground and she was very upset about that situation, so that is why she was refusing to come in from the playground and return to class where those girls were. Allie’s parents informed the teacher who did some work with Allie and these girls to help them work out their problems.

So Allie was getting hit from many sides at once which went a long way towards her “defiance.” Allie was having strong emotions regarding the problem with her classmates on the playground. Allie was also feeling that she was not able to do the work in the class room perfectly due to her upset, so she refused to do that as well.

Can you see how punishing Allie for “defiance” would not be helpful in changing her behavior? Through understanding and problem solving, you will be able to help your child to learn how to communicate her needs and problem solve rather than just shutting down and yelling “NO!”

This will take some work, but in the long run you will have a stronger relationship with your child and your child will become skilled at problem solving and self advocating which is bound to build self esteem as well.


Its a big win for both of you!


Sounds great? or think I’m all wet? Let me know by leaving a comment.




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Vitamin N Improves Behavior

By Karen DeBolt | 18th Apr 2011 | Filed under Family Rituals, Parenting, Personal, Reflections, Relationships, Self Care, Techniques

I feel very fortunate to live in an area where nature is
very close, yet it is so easy to forget to go out and enjoy
it. I get so busy that I forget to smell the freshly mown
grass or forget to go over to the local woods for a nice
walk. This lack of being in nature or “vitamin N” can
really start to make us feel crumby after a while.

This is especially true for children who get stuck watching
TV or playing their favorite videogames. Its not like when
I was little and my mom would just say, “Go outside!” and I
would hang out with the neighborhood kids riding bikes or
skating. Our modern world seems to be full of a lot more
worries now.

Lessons from Day Camp

Yet, this vitamin N deficiency really does affect our
children’s behavior in a negative way. During our Summer
Day Camps, we have learned that taking a hike in nature
every single day means that the afternoon activities go
well. Even just going to a playground doesn’t quite work in
the same way. There’s something special about mindfully
walking looking for living creatures to show to each other.
Our campers would be able to focus better and control their
emotions better after taking a hike.

So take this as a reminder to get your Vitamin N this week,
both for yourself and for your child.

And, if you are still thinking about whether to sign up for
Whiz Kid Summer Day Camp then now is the time. We have a
few different options to choose from a 5 week two day a
week camp and a traditional one week Camp for each boys and
girls. All the details are here:

Please don’t delay if this is something that you think would
be a good fit for your family! We have 3 more spots available
in August and 4 in June/July.

Check out the link or feel free to give me a call at
503-459-2073 to get started.

All the best,  Karen

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Cure impulsivity with pickles

By Karen DeBolt | 30th Mar 2011 | Filed under Parenting, School help, Social Skills, Techniques

The young hunter notices movement in the brush and immediately goes after the game that made the movement. This is a person who is most likely to bring home food for his family that day. That quick acting movement without a lot of thinking or planning made him successful, and chances are, he was a leader in his tribe as well.

So take those very sought after and helpful traits and put them into today’s world, and it gets a lot more complicated–especially for kids. Noticing every movement through out the room, hearing the smallest whisper, immediately blurting out an answer or getting out of your seat to go after something without asking first. This is a recipe for big problems for a child in school. He will not be seen as a leader, sadly, but as a behavior problem.

Impulsivity is driven by the emotional centers of our brain. So it follows that having trouble with tolerating frustration also will cause more impulsive behaviors. That feeling of “I want that” is strong and so the impulse to grab it is strong as well. Afterwards, when the rational mind catches up then it might actually feel bad for grabbing something from another child’s hands or putting something in a pocket that doesn’t belong to you. Then the impulse for self-preservation kicks in because the trouble is about to start! All of this behavior is driven by emotion and not by rational logical thought.

So how do we get our kids who struggle with impulsivity to slow down and let their rational brains make a more reasoned choice?

Make up a funny word

So I’m laying in bed the other morning thinking about this very topic. I could imagine myself saying some kind of funny word like “Pickle” or something as a way to slow down the action and engage rational thinking. The laughter would disrupt the “I want” emotion.

Then I thought of “Pecadillo!” which is a funny kind of word and means mistake. I thought about how easy it would be to mispronounce that word on purpose. I realized that this would work even better because then the kids would be laughing at my silly mispronunciation and correcting me which would also slow down that impulse.

That would give me the opportunity to use specific praise to say, “Thank you so much for helping me out, and I notice that you made a great choice to stop what you were doing there. Way to GO!” (high five)

So by using their own natural tendency to laugh at silly sounding words and to want to correct things that don’t sound right, you can help your kid to begin to slow down and think about things. Over time, they will be able to slow their own impulses, but until then you can help them to strengthen those muscles.

So go talk to your kids and have them come up with some funny words that you can all use to slow the action and take a laughter break. What funny words did your family come up with?

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Social Skills: Leader or Troublemaker?

By Karen DeBolt | 16th Mar 2011 | Filed under Parenting, Relationships, Social Skills, Techniques

Lately, I have been working with several young men in my Whiz Kid after school program  who are natural born leaders. They have great ideas, they have strong opinions about how things should be done. And unfortunately, they are often in trouble at home and at school for these very same traits. It may be  highly annoying for parents and teachers to have to deal with a child who doesn’t blindly follow the rules, who has their own opinions, and is very willing to blurt out what they truly think at any given moment.

While I can relate to how hard it can be sometimes, these very same traits are what makes a great leader! So the child who tries to take over the classroom, then gets sent to the principal isn’t necessarily learning how to focus that brightness into being a great leader and instead is being constantly invalidated for being a “troublemaker.” Do we really want to squash those leadership qualities out of them and risk more problems down the road like poor self esteem, depression, and anxiety?

Of course not!

So while we as parents cannot always control what goes on at school, we can make some changes at home that will build leadership skills rather than squash them. Here are some ideas and I would love to hear yours.


  1. Give your child opportunities to be in charge of planning an event. Obviously, you are not going to start with Thanksgiving Dinner, but how about planning a family game night? Allow your child to think about what is needed, what would have to be obtained, when it would be held. Let your child create invitations, put together the snacks that the guests will enjoy, and pick out a variety of games that will be fun for those who are invited..
  2. When your child starts to take control of a situation, use your collaborative problem solving skills to put your concerns and your child’s concerns on the table. This teaches problem solving skills.
  3. When your child is in a leadership role, teach him or her perspective taking. Its critically important for leaders to take the opinions and feelings of others into consideration. This includes parents, teachers, peers, etc.
  4. When your child comes up with a “wild idea” rather than dismiss it out of hand, help your child to consider all the ramifications of implementation. Big picture thinkers must be able to see the challenges as well as the rewards of their ideas.


I know that all of this takes more time than just having a child who obeys us without question, but remember that you are building a leader. Who knows, you may have the next CEO of a major corporation on your hands. Give your child the tools to succeed.


Whiz Kid Club – Spring sessions

If your little leader is having a hard time with perspective taking, controlling behaviors, and other sorts of trouble making that keep him or her from being successful at school and at home, you might want to consider enrolling him in Whiz Kid Club. Whiz Kid Club is a social skills training program held after school that teaches children how to make and keep friends, control impulses that get them into trouble the most, and best of all its really fun! Check out the website for all the details then fill out the form at the bottom of the page to get started or feel free to call Karen at 503-459-2073.

Summer Day Camp Dates are Set!

I know it may seem way too early to think about Day Camp, but with our small group sizes, its really important to get on it if this is something you are interested in signing up for this year. We are doing three camps this year. One week for boys August 1st to 5th and one week for girls August 15th to 19th. We are also doing a new program this year which will be a two day a week camp over a five week period from June 21st to July 20th 9 am to noon. We are hoping that this will work for families who want a little more structure to Summer, but still freedom for weekend getaways. Check out all the details on the website and see if one of these programs is right for your child.

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Social Skills: Getting the Gist of the Big Picture

By Karen DeBolt | 27th Jan 2011 | Filed under Parenting, Social Skills

As children get older, school begins to make different demands. Course work requires more analysis, more abstract thinking, even more understanding about the way us humans tick. Children with social skills challenges may begin to slide academically for the first time.

In the social skills assessment that I give before children enter Whiz Kid Club, our after school program or Whiz Kid Camp, our summer day camp, I have them take a set of 8 cards that tell a story. I watch for whether they can organize the project easily, whether they put the cards in order and how many tries they need to do it. I also ask them to tell me the story and then give the story a title.

But, its too hard. . .

This task is extremely difficult for some children as they really have a hard time with organizing a task like this without a lot of frustration. However, once that part is completed, the telling of the story is often quite telling. In the story, a boy and his mom leave home, go to a playground, meet a friend, and the boy and his friend trade vehicles, then the boy and his mom go home again. I’m looking for whether the child is able to tell the story in an way that makes sense. This is often extremely hard for many of children in my programs.

In a title, I am wanting to know if the child understands the gist of the story. Often the title the child gives is off target. “A boy goes to the playground” while accurate misses the point of the story.

How does this affect school work?

Seeing the big picture is critical in whether a book report accurately reflects what a book is about or whether the essay makes a point or goes off target. You can see how the ability to get the gist or see the big picture would make a big difference academically.

How to help at home

One easy way to begin flexing those big picture muscles is to talk about Movies or TV shows that you watch together. Ask your child what a good title might be for that episode of Sponge Bob or ask what is the main theme of Toy Story. While reading a book, ask your child what big idea the author was trying to get across in this chapter of The Lightning Thief. Don’t expect that your child will be perfect at first. Remember this is hard stuff. Ask first, get some guesses and then make some suggestions that you see. Explain why.

By practicing these skills, your child will be in a much better position to be able to do analysis in school.

Summer Day Camps are coming soon!

I know it seems early to start worrying about the Summer, but we are in the process of setting up dates for Day Camp. We have a week in July already scheduled and more dates are going to added over the new few weeks. Its not too early to begin thinking about camp as you are making your Summer vacation plans.

We are going to be having a special Day Camp just for Girls this year also! Girls social skills needs are different than the boys so we are creating a special program just for them.

Check out the website now for information, and I will be in touch with more information as we firm up our plans!

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Happy Holidaze to you and yours

By Karen DeBolt | 13th Dec 2010 | Filed under Family Rituals, Reflections

We celebrate Christmas at our home, and today was the annual going to get the Christmas tree ritual. As in past years, things did not go completely smoothly. You can probably relate!

As some of you know, I work on a crisis line over the weekend on the overnight shift. While I do really love this work, the hours make life very hard sometimes.  My 15 year old also has all kinds of choir practices and 6 performances and my son is also doing play practice and my 17 year old is working part time. Needless to say, finding a time to go get a tree was not easy this year! So I decided that I would just stay up one morning, and we would go.

So I get off work yesterday morning, I’m a bit wound up over something that happened at work so that delays me in getting home. Then my 15 year old is refusing to get out of bed. She is usually my easy kid too! ugh! I lay the guilt trip on strong and thick. It worked! Luckily, my son and other daughter are ready and excited to get started. It’s a Christmas Miracle!

We go to a local farm, Furrow Farms, to pick out and cut our own tree. We walk and walk until we find the perfect enough tree. Everyone gets a vote and it took a while to find the perfect tree. By the time we walk back to the car, I’m dead on my feet! My beloved husband gets the tree tied up on the roof of the car and we take it home.

The tree is  sitting in my living room now smelling lovely and looking gorgeous even without a stitch of ornamentation yet. Hopefully, I won’t have to resort to the guilt trip to get them to decorate it!

Wishing you and yours lovely holiday rituals in whatever way that you celebrate the season.

All the best, Karen

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